Posts Tagged ‘recovery’

Friday link roundup 9/22

Today is the first day of fall in the Northern Hemisphere and the first day of spring in the Southern. Happy equinox and change of season!

From The New York Times: a conversation with Hillary Clinton and actress/activist America Ferrera.

Sterling K. Brown won the Emmy for Outstanding Lead Actor in a Drama Series, and is the first black actor to win this award in almost 20 years.

A “What Were You Wearing” art installation at a Kansas university takes aim at the age-old sexual violence myth.

Updates on the aftermath of the earthquake in Mexico.

On the devastating flooding in Puerto Rico from Hurricane Maria.

A commute in a Japanese commuter train is made more fun…with kittens!

From Best night sky events for this month, with stargazing maps.

Work-At-Home School: Coming in 2018. A one-stop shop for gaining skills, resources, and knowledge to successfully work at home!

Daily Goodie Box: free samples in exchange for reviews.  It takes being active on their social media pages to receive a box, but it’s legitimate and the products are great!

A link from a reader: The Freedom Model, a new way of looking at and approaching addiction.

As always, please feel free to contact me and send me your links!


Moving to Heal

Dancing while sitting in a chair feels different. As I described to the co-owner of the Nia studio, it feels more “settled.” In some ways, it requires more emphasis on the arms, and restricts movement in the legs (speaking as someone who has full use of legs). It still activates the core, though, in the swaying, moving, and sitting upright.

On Sunday, I went to a Moving to Heal class.  These kind of Nia classes were originally developed for cancer patients and then expanded to include anyone in need of healing, whether emotional, physical, or spiritual.

I found it more free flowing than the typical Nia class, and it still had structure with stances and steps. In all Nia classes, there is the open invitation to follow one’s body and move accordingly as needed. In this Moving to Heal class, with a slower pace and several chairs scattered throughout the room, that invitation seemed wider and deeper.

I initially chose to sit in the chair to explore what it was like to modify the moves.  I allowed myself to rest in the gentle movement, and my tired muscles got some relief from the consistent on-my-feet moves of that morning and the previous day.

I looked around the room:  there were people of all ages, more women than men.  A man who is recovering from a stroke was standing and swaying to the music.  Several women were sitting in chairs, making expressive movements with their arms and more subtle movements with their legs and feet.  Others were on their feet, following the teacher’s soft and fluid movements.

When the class ended, many people were on the floor and slowly made their way up to standing.  There was a sense of peace in the room.  I relished in the gentle energy, grateful for how Nia has helped me heal.

Time and Frame of Reference

It’s strange to think that after tomorrow I will no longer refer to the events of 2014 as “last year.” The phrase implies a certain amount of intimacy, of closeness.

Saying “In 2014” or “two years ago” sounds like I’ve wedged more time between now and being in crisis, in the hospital, leaving an entire community.  I realize that I’ve put a lot of weight on how that period has defined me – it certainly required a lot of self-examination, a series of choices and transitions.  It has continued to require a growing sense of acceptance.

I am looking forward to the day when I am less haunted by those experiences.  I also know I can’t rush it.  I certainly feel less haunted than I did last year.

I am not sure if I totally buy the saying that time heals all wounds. Time may act as a type of a buffer and create more distance, more perspective.  In the end, it’s the healing work I do that matters most, no matter how much time has passed.  I am creating space for myself, now.

At risk to unravel

I recently got my discharge summary from my time spent at a psychiatric hospital last year. This one line stands out to me:
“Insight and judgment are fair but the patient is at risk to unravel due to the high tension she has had in her life recently.”

This is a very accurate statement about that window of time in my life.

It won’t help me to vividly rehash the experience. Perhaps I will simply say: I was still at risk for unraveling. I did, in moments. I made the best possible decision for myself by getting help and leaving the stressful situation.

A reminder for myself for the moments where I fall back into the memories of that time: I am not in that place anymore. I have found my way back to myself. I have found new threads and continue to weave my life.

Friday link roundup 10/23

News from the Twitter-verse: If We Gave Fathers the Same Advice We Gave Working Mothers.

A study suggests that many men are threatened by intelligent women.

A U.S. company that runs the ads in the New York subway system turns down ads for Thinx menstrual underwear, claiming certain parts of the ad were “racy” and “suggestive.”

A Target ad shows that Halloween is for children of all abilities.

Madness Radio:  a mental health and mental illness resource, full of interviews, stories, and different perspectives.

A Madness Radio interview with peer advocate Dina Tyler about her own lived experience and perspective on psychosis.

One of Dina Tyler’s projects is the Bay-area based Mandala Project, which has alternative programs for people experiencing psychosis.

Friday link roundup 9/11

Mountains outside of Las Vegas, NV

Mountains outside of Las Vegas, Nevada

What to say to children with anxiety.  I find many of these suggestions to be both supportive and validating.

Books aren’t the first thing that comes to mind when I think of the migrant camps in Europe. I imagine I would want to read, too. On the Calais migrant camp library and makeshift libraries at other refugee camps.

A talk on using dance/movement therapy as part of substance abuse recovery.

Rachel S. Schneider on sensory shutdowns.

I regularly take photos of things in my day-to-day life that I find pretty or inspiring, but what if I were record the more mundane moments, too?  On the power of recording the everyday moments.

Poet Andrea Gibson’s tumblr post in honor of Suicide Prevention Day on sharing vulnerable moments and shedding shame.

On transmitting trauma:  an article from several years ago on the effect of 9/11 on the children of survivors who were pregnant during the attack.

Three of my favorite TED Talks

I wanted to share several of my favorite TED talks, ones that have really resonated with me and made me exclaim, “Yes!  It’s like that!” and share with friends and family.

Brené Brown: The Power of Vulnerability.

From her talk:  “This is what I have found: to let ourselves be seen, deeply seen, vulnerably seen; to love with our whole hearts, even though there’s no guarantee — and that’s really hard, and I can tell you as a parent, that’s excruciatingly difficult — to practice gratitude and joy in those moments of terror, when we’re wondering, ‘Can I love you this much? Can I believe in this this passionately? Can I be this fierce about this?’  just to be able to stop and, instead of catastrophizing what might happen, to say, ‘I’m just so grateful, because to feel this vulnerable means I’m alive.'”  – Brené Brown.

Brené Brown studies vulnerability, shame, and perfectionism.  I love how she tells stories, her own story and piece of the stories of people she engages with as part of her research.  I love how she’s willing to do her own personal work when she discovers that she’s not being as whole-hearted or vulnerable as she’d like.  I have read all of Brené Brown’s books.  I even won a giveaway on her blog once and have a signed card.  I could gush about her for quite awhile.  However, if you haven’t yet, and maybe even if you have, watch her TED talk.  It’s a great introduction to her work and the power and strength of vulnerability.

Glennon Doyle Melton, Lessons from the Mental Hospital

From her talk:  “But what I learned during that time is that sitting with the pain and the joy of being a human being, while refusing to run for any exits is the only way to become a real human being. And so these days I’m not a superhero and I’m not a perfect human being. But I am a fully human being. And I am proud of that.”  – Glennon Doyle Melton

I’ve shared several links on her from Glennon’s blog, Momastery.  I appreciate her honesty, her vulnerability, and her willingness to show up for herself and others.  I love her commitment to serve people with her whole self and heart – she seems to express who she is, imperfections and challenges and all, and lead from there.

Susan Cain: The Power of Introverts

And what I’m saying is that culturally, we need a much better balance. We need more of a yin and yang between these two types [introverts and extroverts). This is especially important when it comes to creativity and to productivity, because when psychologists look at the lives of the most creative people, what they find are people who are very good at exchanging ideas and advancing ideas, but who also have a serious streak of introversion in them.”  – Susan Cain

I discovered Susan Cain through her book Quiet:  The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking.  In her book and TED talk, she boldly challenges common myths and beliefs about introverts, and advocates for a new greater understanding.  As an introvert, I really identify with what she has to say.

What TED talks or other speeches have inspired you?